As I’ve thought long and hard over the last couple days about something I could bring you this week, my mind was blank. Not because I have nothing to say, but because I want you to want to read my posts.
I’m always telling my followers to be themselves no matter what; that your beauty will shine through when you be your authentic self. I try to take my own advice but we all know that’s easier said than done.
These last few weeks have been a little bit of a challenge for me. The stresses of work and every day life have been closing in on me and I feel like instead of powerfully walking through it, I’ve been crawling and dragging; maybe less than an inch at a time.
After days of self-doubt and feeling weak, I feel like I had a little bit of a break-through. This is what I learned:
- Accept change. The only constant in life is change. It’s liberating to understand that things are not always going to be the same way they are now. Whether life is wonderful now and you need to take advantage of it or life is challenging now and you’re looking forward to something new, understand things will change. Allow yourself to accept the changes. Today will bring you a beautiful memory or a beautiful lesson.
- Help someone else out. Listen to that little voice inside of you… most of the time you’ll be able to recognize when someone around you needs help.
I’m a recreational therapist and I work at a behavioral health facility. A few weeks ago I was working with a young girl who struggles with depression. She seemed really down one day and I was trying to cheer her up. She asked if she could use the restroom, so I walked her down to the restrooms to unlock the door for her. For some reason I had this feeling I needed to check her pockets before she went in (it is acceptable for staff to check pockets if we feel a patient is unsafe). Normally we don’t check pockets before someone goes into the restroom, but I had a gut feeling I needed to this time. I asked her if she could show me what was in her pockets and she pulled out a chapstick and a gum wrapper. One of her hands remained in a fist; almost like she was trying to hide something. I asked her to show me what was in that hand and she revealed a staple she had torn out of some papers. She started to tear up and handed the staple to me. When she came out of the restroom she had tears streaming down her face. She told me she did not feel safe with her thoughts at the time and that she was going to use the staple to self-harm if I had not caught her. I’m so glad I responded to that gut feeling!
The other day someone sent me a message just saying, “Thinking of you!” on a day I needed it most. When you respond to those little feelings you have you make a world of a difference!
- Focus on doing the best you can, not on being perfect. Not a single person in this world is perfect; that’s what keeps life interesting. I can’t imagine if we all looked the same, talked the same, acted the same, and enjoyed the same things. Life would be one boring mess.
I don’t know about you, but I’m more comfortable in an environment when things aren’t perfect. When I walk into a house and there are laundry baskets in the living room and dishes in the sink or when a friend tells me about a blemish on her face and about her hair that is full of dry shampoo I feel comfortable. It makes me feel like it’s okay to be imperfect too!
If we focus on doing things “perfectly” all the time, we will be disappointed all the time.
YOU deserve to be loved and happy. YOU deserve to be loved and respected. YOU are capable of amazing things. YOU have wisdom and what you desire matters. All of this is true even if you make mistakes. Even if you are not perfect.
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